Thursday 14 April 2016

Ritambhara Sahni - MY FAILED LOVE STORY.




I AM
A 21 years old average looking girl – not very intelligent or out of the world beautiful – NEVER had a boyfriend ever and I give tuition's to small kids.

SO ONE DAY
I meet this very ordinary looking guy at a park for my evening walk – got talking to him- he was really sweet, nice and caring. A friendship realized and so our tale began-exchanged numbers- Facebook friends – Whats App/ on the phone all day till we would meet each day at the park.

I ABSOLUTELY ENJOYED HIS COMPANY
he was witty, intelligent, funny… gave me a lot of attention and showered me with compliments all the time-- I began to feel wonderful about myself. Oh! I loved talking to him - had him in my thoughts 24/7. If he would not call -I would miss him. So I didn't just fall in love with, I was addicted to him.

 HE HAD TOLD ME THAT HE LOVED ME
in all possible direct and indirect ways and I was the right girl for him and I told him that I felt the same. It felt special to be loved and to be told that I WAS THE ONE FOR HIM. I developed a new radiant self-image from the power that comes from being desired. We soon crossed all the parameters of a love relationship and love made my days special.

ON PARALLEL LINES
 I joined this belly dance class - Belly dance Institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni with my sister as my mom wanted me to accompany her.  The class was amazing and my teacher Ritambhara was encouraging and always made me feel so good. Life felt complete and perfect! He and my teacher had completely uplifted my spirit and energy and had become the most meaningful people in my life. Initially, not joined belly dance on my own accord, but had begun to like the dance form a lot.

AFTER 3 MONTHS-
this 28 year old guy CHANGED....
He would not give me the same attention, his calls became less frequent and he was drifting away. I started to feel low. The only thing that kept me going was my belly dance class. So I kept going and I kept giving tuitions believing him when he said he was busy.- waited endlessly for his calls- Missed him like crazy and felt awful and depressed that he was too busy to be with me .

 WHY WAS THIS GUY NOT SO BUSY BEFORE????
 I wanted to make our relationship work without letting him go and so I thought the best thing is to get married to him. I was certain he would accept without a doubt as he always said I was the perfect girl for him. And so I asked him to meet me and after a lot of persuasion he agreed, though implying that he was sparing time with a lot of difficulty.

SO FINALLY WE MET AGAIN
 And i told him that we have gone pretty far in our relationship and now we should marry. And to that – his facial reaction was so weird- like everything he had said to me before had no value.  He remained quiet while i kept asking him excitedly that wasn't marriage our best answer to be together since he was so busy. But he maintained silence and instead looked like I was pressurizing him. But I couldn’t let my hopes die so quickly and so I waited, requesting him to please say something…and so he said, 
I DO LOVE YOU BABES AND YOU ARE REALLY THE PERFECT GIRL IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. I LIKE BEING WITH YOU AND
 I DO LOVE YOU BUT SWEETHEART MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING ELSE TOTALLY, AND I DON’T LOOK AS YOU AS MY WIFE..REALLY…’

I was dumfounded and I could not understand that answer, forget understand, I could not relate to it. It made zero sense, WHY WOULD A GUY LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND NOT WANT TO MARRY YOU????? LOVE AND MARRIAGE ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS???? REALLY??????
I asked him why but he had no answer, he just said that for right now let’s just see how it goes and we shall see later on how he feels about the subject. If he feels like getting married to me then he will, or else he won’t but he loves me for now and advised me to live in the moment.

 I WAS SHATTERED AND HEARTBROKEN.
 I cried all night, the next day and after that - didn’t want to speak to him and wanted to at the same time. I didn't even go to my belly dance class for 3 weeks until my belly dance teacher called me and asked me what happened??? I told her I had a personal issue and was not in the right frame of mind. She said to me…
’ THE WORLD IS A VERY BIG PLACE AND IF YOU FIND NEGATIVITY IN ONE PLACE, IF YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND LOOK FURTHER BEYOND …THIS NEGATIVITY WILL BURY AND YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS AGAIN, WHATEVER THE CASE MAYBE. I DON’T WANT TO KNOW YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE BUT THIS IS YOUR SOLUTION AND YOUR FIRST STEP IS TO COME FOR THE CLASS…so please come’ 
WOW!!….she didn't even know what happened but I liked what she said. So I decided to attend the class.

She then announced a belly dance show in which I could perform and so I accepted to and I got busy gearing up for the show.
 She told me whatever the problem maybe, I should divert my mind and not think about the problem at all..i did exactly that and continued to go to class and gear up for the performance.

His calls had completely stopped and he disappeared from my life. I didn’t have the heart to call him either as he had abused my uplifted self-image created at one time by himself.
The show finally happened and my performance changed my life. My friends and family who came to watch me were amazed at my performance. I had fallen in love with belly dance and myself and discovered a lot of potential in me. I felt stronger as a person and more assertive about myself. The compliments I got made me feel beautiful and self-worthy.

 And so I realized what happened with me back then was a FRAUD. 

A GUY WHO TELLS YOU EVERYTHING AND MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE THE RIGHT ONE FOR HIM, AND SAYS HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU ALL THE TIME AND SAYS IT IN AN INDIRECT WAY THAT HE WILL MARRY WITHOUT USING THE WORD MARRIAGE – BEWARE OF THEM.
 Clarify right at the start what it is really and I guess don’t allow yourself to go that far until its official and he wants to marry you. I guess I was really a DUMB BLONDE back then but the classes changed me and helped me keep my sanity.


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7 comments:

  1. A story that teaches very important things. One be careful before you fall so deep in love and trust someone with your life just on emotional basis. Love is a feeling but a relationship also requires brains! Two, love your self, no matter what shape, size and features you have. You are beautiful. Each woman is.

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  2. I feel that this girl whose story it's about was really really strong from within to take your inspiration and let things go. As its really not that easy to let go. I feel it's also her belief in you. I am your student and I know how positively your advise and motivation helps. But all said and done, when a guy breaks your heart like that it is truly very painful and hurtful. To take you to the mountains and then dump you like that. Belly dancing surly gives every girl a new identity. Makes her feminine side really strong. Empowers her. Belly dancing and ritambhara Sahni and belly dancing with the guidance of Ritambhara Sahni can surly create magic . Ritambhara Sahni I'm so happy and fortune to learn under your guidance.

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  3. wow i don't know what to say but all the guys are not in same way some people are very good also I"m with you and after reading your story its a very good lesson for guys girls thanks for sharing we all love you...
    Chefajay...
    vadodara
    jai Shree krishna..

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  4. Dear Ajay,
    Thank you for reading this story. It truly does mean a lot. Actually this story is a very common story for so many females i know. i do agree that all guys are not the same and have met wonderful guys myself. Thanks for being with us on what we have to share here and appreciating the cause for which this story is written. Thanks for all the appreciation and love. - Ritambhara Sahni - Jai Shree Krishna.

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  5. Well written – Ritambhara Sahni mam – well to share my story –At my workplace, I met this guy and he had just joined. I connected with him very instantly and we did eventually fall in love. It began with a long endless series of texts . Shortly, we fell in love and it all was out of the world. Nobody from work was aware of our story and I did spent the most perfect 3 months of my life. And then just like this very story, he suddenly began not to text me so often, made apologies not to meet, he did not even hear me out anymore. All this time i tried my best to be supportive and on his side still and give him his space. I did my best for him: showered him with all my love, did cross all parameters, and gave him his space and not to forget I made him laugh always and showed him I was happy even when I was dying from within. He never said to meet his family or his friends. Its been 2 months over and above 3 months that he has become so distant. He use to check out other females around when he was with me and always smiling at his phone. I decided to ask him what s happening and he said he wants some time to be alone. I really don’t know why guys do this. Yes some guys are just not worth it. They take you up and then they break you down. Kill your spirit and kill you from within. This girl was surly strong. She dint give up and I know how you are – Ritambhara Sahni being your student and I know you can create belief in you so naturally with your teachings, your motivation and inspiration. Her belief in you surly got her into diverting her mind and brought her to a new place. It’s not easy, not at all. When a guy makes you feel this good and this wanted and you have him in your system completely, it’s just not easy to let go. Both the stories, mine and this other girls, have a love story and at both places the guy really puts the girl down and kills her spirit in 2 completely different ways. I totally agree that belly dance is empowering. It can make you extremely powerful mentally as a female and that can create the magic. I wish to reconnect and come back to classes and follow your instructions that I will rise eventually. Thanks for motivating me by sharing this story.

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  6. Reading this story surly does inspire me so much. I would like to share my story here and also give my message. I read your story right now on Facebook on a friends page and it’s amazing how a belly dance class in Mumbai can do so much above just teach for the student. I’m sure the teacher here is a great motivator and has to be a beautiful person. Ritambhara Sahni – would love to meet you soon. So here is my story --More than 7 years ago, I went through a divorce which left me living in fear. I was really scared as I thought that my heart would just never ever heal. I was extremely scared that each moment, each day, every second would be more worthless than the next. I was petrified that I would never ever find love again. After a period of time, I hit rock bottom. It was then that I realised that I had to make a very simple choice -- I had to make–a choice between being scared and being hopeful. I chose to be hopeful. While the last period of time has been a challenge, it has also been the best of my life. I was able to rebuild my life and find love again. It took its time but I was really able to and it did happen as I was hopeful with the strong power of positivity. For all of you out there suffering from heartbreak or facing depression, I want you to know that life can hold meaning again. You have to get up and try and be hopeful and never let your spirit die. A better, brighter path lies ahead. And love, in many forms,in so many different ways awaits you and its only and only if you choose hope. In this way, you will always find love. Thanks for sharing this story. It inspires me to inspire people. Im sure belly dance institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni is a very happy and positive belly dance class Mumbai has. Not keen to belly dance but keen to meet you – Ritambhara Sahni.

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  7. Belly dance Institute Mumbai has a big hand in turning my sisters life around for the good and after reading this i have to write about our story with Ritambhara Sahni and belly Dance Institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni . Ritambhara Sahni's belly dance institute mumbai is definately a life enhancing experience and i can 100 percent say that. I can also one thousand percent say that belly dance Institute Mumbai is one of the greatest places you could learn belly dance at because it definitely enhances you in all aspects which is mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. I have been around to say this for sure for at belly dance Institute Mumbai by Ritambhara Sahni. So here goes our story at Ritambhara Sahni's belly dance Institute Mumbai-- My sister was this really introvert . It was next to impossible for us to gauge what she desired as she would speak very less. Of course she had a pure heart right from childhood. In different ways we asked her what she desired and what she would want from life but we ceased to get the answers we wanted. So, one fine day she saw belly dance and we she finally expressed that she was extremely mesmerized with what she saw and at last after so long she said on her own that she wanted to learn belly dance. We searched on google, dance directories and many other places for belly dance classes and found yours to be the best belly dance class in Mumbai - Ritambhara Sahni. We did call you asap and then we met you -[ Ritambhara Sahni ] and got her enrolled at belly dance Institute Mumbai. My sister had shown a positive change from day 1 of your class. A girl who would hardly express and speak was now having a strong mind of her own. Her performance in Ritambhara Sahni's belly dance show was amazing. I did not expect my sister to get on to stage like that and give such a great performance. Belly dance has truely empowered my sister nothing would be possible without your motivation. Ritambhara Sahni's motivation and the positivity of belly dance Institute Mumbai definitely empowers a female. Thanks belly dance institute Mumbai and thanks Ritambhara Sahni for bringing my sister to this high level. We all are thankful to you ritambhara Sahni. belly dance institute mumbai by ritambhara sahni rocks!!

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